Tuesday, September 19, 2006

Is this your first?

When you are a young lady growing up in a large family it begins to become tiring that in this society almost every young girl with a child in her arms is assumed to be a single mother. Even as young as 12 can make you suspect, especially if you are tall and look as if you could be in your early teens as my oldest soon learned.

Aimee would often assist me while out getting groceries by either pushing the cart, or more often by holding the current baby. After all, cuddling a little love bug is infinitely nicer than pushing a cold metal cart that is slowly growing heavier and harder to push. She was only 12 when Noah, the 7th baby, was born. Still, she was tall for her, age possibly as tall as I am ( all of 5' 3") and sometimes she would be dawdling behind me as she carried Noah. She would feel embarrased when she could see older women trying to catch a glimpse of her ring finger on her left hand and then sometimes tut tuting. Others would be forward enough to ask; "So is this your first...."

Finally one day, tired and angry with people assuming such a thing of her when the next fellow shopper, someone Aimee described as actually quite a tiny and sweet dottering old lady came up to her and peered at her through heavy lenses and smiling asked her - "Is this your first, Dear?" Aimee dead panned her with:
"No, its my sixth...."
and she waited while this registered. As the poor old woman gasped and grabbed at her chest, Aimee relented and sweetly smiled - "Sibling, my sixth sibling."

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Way to go Aimee ! I love it ! I know how that one goes as even though I am only the middle of three,I am eleven and a half years older than my baby brother. When I was sixteen and got my licence,I took Curt many places with me, and always got those stares. I used to get so infuriated that Curt picked up on it and would call me Mom and laugh. When he was in high school, he went through a time when he would get frequent headaches and request Tylenol from the nurse. The school rule was that he had to call home and get his parent to Ok the nurse to administer any thing. Because our mom did her shopping and took our grandma wherever she needed during the day,she could rarely be tracked down
( This was before cell phones) Curt would call me saying " Mom, this is Curt, could you tell the nurse I can have Tylenol" I always OK-d it for him and to this day I am known as his second Mom

Lorcan said...

In answer to thy poll... Feet up, cuppa tea, listening to The Rankin Family or one or two other great bands... my own sometimes! And remembering your daughter's remarkable sense of humor, the above example fits right into my own few memories there of... =)
Going to Quaker meeting, travelling the world on Flickr (photo sites) and reading really wonderful blogs like thine...

=) lor

Tim said...

Bully for her!

M. Alexander said...

Used to happen to me (oldest of 9) and now happens to my dds 15 and 16 and oldest of 8. It is really infuriating when it happens. Why are people so blank nosy! It is none of their business either way! In my opinion they don't have enough to do...but I could help them w/ that! I have laundry to do, toys to pick up, papers to file, dishes to wash...well you get the idea! LOL

Anonymous said...

Now THAT'S funny! I used to get the same thing when out with my youngest of cousins.

Take heart blogger said...

My Husband and I babysit a 1 year old and 3 year old once a week. Last week we decided to go for a walk to the local cafe. Much to my amusement one of the girls in my law tutorial from uni was serving. She looked at me a bit shocked when I approached with baby Isaac comfortably sitting on my hip. Afterall, she would be the same age as me - 20 y.o - and was not ready for babies! I played the game a bit flaunting my wedding ring and waving to my Husband Tom who was finding a seat with William the 3 year old. Sure, they weren't my children. But - I wished they were.

Take heart blogger said...

Just quickly...

One of my dearest friends Katie had a baby at 20. I joined her to the shops one day so that she could get some paperwork done. Whilst at the bank, a lady at the teller said: 'Is that your baby? You're too young to have a baby!' With a quick, sharp reply Katie retorted: 'Didn't you have sex education at school?!??!'

Simply hilarious.

Anonymous said...

Ahh, reminds me of my childhood -from the age of about 11- yes I did look old for my age, but still. At least I often had a 'husband' or would that be partener, as my brother is barely a year younger.
I think the best moment was trying to buy perfume, in my early twenties, with a toddler (brother) who was admittedly looking a bit the worst for wear. The saleslady practically told me to leave and spend my money on my children instead. I was really irked.

Dory said...

I used to get this all the time with my little sisters when I took them to the store or out for a stroller ride!
I actually thought it was kinda cool!